Name 14/07/22(Tue)04:16 No.23974
Nothing is mixed up here. This is just the anime series you forgot about.
Asuka wants and tries to be a leader, but she's not too good at it, nor is she too capable a pilot. The series demonstrates this thoroughly by having her fail miserably. It's an inconvenient truth many asuka fans decide to forget, and forge their own fake image of Asuka.
The point of the Rei character is that she isn't a doll, but maybe years of Asuka fan propaganda has made you forget that the only one crying about dolls in the anime is Asuka.
There's a difference between desperation and last resort decisive action, the latter is fairly rational, while the former is impulsive and without much thought. Asuka rushing blindly against Zeruel is desperate. She has no plan, no goal, she just rushes.
When Rei rushes the same Angel, she has bided her time, prepared a strategy and actually executed it without being ordered to, but unfortunately is only marginally more successful than Asuka.